Introducing Flower Essences

The other day my friend was making fun of me since I drive in bare feet and was calling me a hippy and telling me it was illegal. WHICH IS A LIE! I googled it, and we all know google doesn’t lie….Anyway so I decided to make a more ‘hippy’ themed post about the amazing things that are classified as Flower Essences.

Flower Essences can be explained bluntly as the process of putting flowers in water, taking them out and mixing that flower water with brandy, but that doesn’t mean anything.
Flower essences affect the body on a mental and emotional level, They are said to work Physically – filtering down into mental aspect. Or work on a mind state and filter down to the physical. Each flower symbolises something and will treat a different symptom. For example the way that flowers are categorised can be by colour, shape, number of petals, all of these factors allude to what they treat.

Flower Essences are produced by imprinting a flower’s unique vibrational healing signature onto the carrier solution and are used to treat imbalances at a higher level, bringing about emotional and spiritual balance and well being in the whole person (ABFE. ND).

Vague example of Bach Flower Remedies:

Dr Edward Bach, 1886-1936, studied medicine and worked in immunology and bacteriology before learning about Homeopathy. From here he started to match the disharmonious states of health to bacteria – specifically mental and emotional conditions that manifest as physical illness.

1930-1936 – The discovery of the flower essences that we use today.

It is thought that the subtle energy from the vibrations of these flower essences are used to realign the emotions that are causing dysfunction. By increasing alignment, greater harmony could occur within the individual as physical aspect combine with the energy – emotional and mental aspect of higher self.

Treatment is very easy since Bach has separated the types so that treatment can be given efficiently. There are 38 Bach Essence Remedies, which restore physical health through correction of underlying emotions.

  • Fear:
    Aspen, Cherry Plum, Mimulus,  Red Chestnut and Rock Rose
  • Uncertainty:

    Cerato, Gentian, Gorse, Hornbeam, Scleranthus and Wild Oat

  • Lack of Interest:

    Chestnut Bud, Clematis, Honeysuckle, Olive, White Chestnut and Wild Rose

  • Loneliness:
    Heather, Impatiens and Water Violet
  • Oversensitivity:
    Agrimony, Centaury, Holly and Walnut
  • Depression/Anguish:
    Crab Apple, Elm, Larch, Mustard, Oak, Pine, Star of Bethlehem, Sweet Chestnut and Willow
  • Worry:
    Beech, Chicory, RockWater, Vervain and Vine.

Australian Bush Flowers Essences (ABFE), ND, Ian White accessed Nov 2013

Bach Center, 2007, The 38 Flower Remedies, Wigmore Publications Ltd, London, Great Britain

Bach Center, ND, viewed 26 November 2013


30 Entries for 30 Days – Number 11 – The Pre-Relationship Relationship

As you know this ’30 day’ thing is being stretched to 30+ days since I am so slack with posting, there will still be 30 posts when I get around to them all.

But I know I am not alone in revealing in this stage before a relationship starts or ends before it starts.

It’s a great day to be alive, tensions are heavy, and the blinding thrill has slowed down, so that you can make out the potential destruction through all the metaphorical clouds that are your emotions.
This is the perfect time to see how well they treat you, both of you can pull out of this process at anytime under the assumption on one is attached to strongly. But here lies the problem, by this stage you are so wrapped up in each others dramas that the idea of being separated hurt to the core.

Of course it is a great time to see how personalities clash, I’m very much a Better Dig Two kind of gal after plenty of experiences, I get ridiculously  attached when I really like someone. I think the last time I felt like this was the Floridian Maths Teacher, before that was  my motorcycle driveby,  and before that was SeaBas, a guy I met at the gym and spent only a month in a relationship with, followed by months of dating.

So it’s been while, but not long enough that I’ve forgotten not to jump in the sack straight away. The funny thing with all these guys, in my attempt to show them how much I cared about them and wanted to be with them long term my actions backfired on me and the fact that I had slept with them ruined any further relationship.

Keeping in mind I only keep in contact with ‘Motorcycle DriveBy’ Guy, who calls me when ever he needs an ego boost and wants to know that I would still drop anything, or anyone to be with him…

Perhaps I am the problem….

But this is the update:

I love this stage of a ‘pre’ relationship, the honey moon phase is floating around, there are no rules as you guys aren’t a thing, there is so much internal debate on if you are exclusive. and the turmoil inside is worth it when they say what you want to hear, your entire body feels at peace, but until then you are left with:

Should I be this open with someone I just met?

Are they going to hurt me?

But what happens if they don’t want something more serious?

Are they sleeping with someone else too?

Well, my dear Cody, the Tinder Fling, gave me the ultimatum either I have sex with him or He’s going to find it else where.

You know, I have never felt this strong in a position where I supposedly have no power, I’m sticking to my guns. When I first read that text I admit my stomach dropped and I felt like someone had shot me.  His exact words were:

“….So I am sorry If I end up doing something with another girl. Fuck I am sounding like an asshole. But honestly I’m not going to go looking  I would rather you ;)”

Are you freaking kidding me?

The advice I was given from a fellow Pre-Realtionship Relationshiper was that he was a jerk, but perhaps  reconnect in a few months since we were at different stages… Then in the same breath she changed her tune to:

“Ok I lied, RUN, RUN LIKE HELL!”

But the worst thing at the end of her rant about this guys being a moron was that she said :

“I won’t judge you no matter what you do, I am totally still in love with that guy, *C-face*, We can’t resist each other and the cycle continues”

If ever I saw a toxic relationship, this is one, while they are still no where near a proper relationship, their connection is like one in a terrible romance drama. Ive seen it before with my best friend from high school. It’s a cycle that starts up with anger and passion and tragedy and continues, The best example I would have to give would be Ted Hughes and Sylvia Plath, two of my favourite poets, who’s love was focused around destruction.

You can read my post on why Pre-Relationship Break Ups Suck : HERE

5 Reasons Why the Pre-Relationship Break Ups are Hard. 30 Entries for 30 Days, Number 12

I had never really heard of the concept of the Pre- Relationship break up until yesterday where I was pouring out my little heart to my dear friend, Lacey. I was mid sentence about Cody, The Tinder Fling, and she just knew, you know? It’s a destructive relationship that will only end in pain but the good outweighs the bad – more on that later. It is a pre-relationship relationship.

  1. Telling other people about it seems pathetic since your one month dating romance is nothing by comparison to your poor friend who just got out of a three year relationship.
  2. And when you do tell other people, they roll their eyes and tell you to run.
    The best advice I was given was from Lacey, “Run, Run Like Hell” but in the same breath, she gets it after having this toxic pre-relationship relationship creating a vicious cycle and tells me to stay because no matter what, the feelings you get when you are with this person outweigh all the torture your little heart will withstand.
  3. You have absolutely no leverage, no one else can tell him he’s being a moron since there is a high chance only a few people know of you. And even then, the truth is distorted.
  4. Unless you have been in a toxic pre-relationship relationship, there is a high chance you won’t be able to understand why your friend is so hung up on a guy she was only dating for a month.
  5. And worst of all, You will never know what could have been.

ShotGun Rider

Anatomy and Physiology – Bones – Osteoporosis

So to many of us, the idea of getting old sucks, but what about getting Osteoporosis?


Osteoporosis is a condition that makes bone brittle.


Getting old and being a female is a risk in itself, but having low bone mass – osteopenia, puts the risk for osteoporosis higher. Low bone mass can result in bones breaking due to regular lifestyle wear and tear. It is an interesting note to look at hip replacement failure – there is a higher incidence in patients who are younger since they are generally more physically active.

The effects of of this condition is largely due to a depletion of calcium in the body, it is important to consider the thyroid function. Osteoporosis effects the whole body, not just hips or knees. The Spine can be effected and Osteoporosis can be in play when you see a larger range of elderly people hunched over or through the stereotypical idea that people get shorter as they age – which can be due to osteoporosis.

How might osteoporosis impact on the life of an elderly person?

We all generalise that as people age, they become more frail, but with osteoporosis this is really the case. A simple fall or knock could result in some serious damage being done. Everyday activities can result in a one way trip to hospital, providing they can even make it to a phone if they live alone.

For example if an elderly woman lives alone  and is suffering from Osteoporosis, if she falls and that results in a bone breakage, there may be no way for her to call for help and may become trapped at one end of the house with no way to get assistance. It can really cause a lot of anxiety in sufferers and cause fear to be left alone. Unfortunately this occurs too regularly where an elderly person will suffer a bone breakage and become unable to call for assistance, leaving them reliant on someone to check in on them to alert the hospital and health care services. This is a form of alienation, which can aggravate anxiety and depression in the elderly who may become to feel uncomfortable being alone and performing routine everyday tasks.

30 Entries for 30 Days – Number 10 – Are You Going To Kiss Me Or Not?

Wow.. number 10.
I take my hat off to you for getting through 10 of these very specific posts that could pass as being written by a whinging 14 year old with no sense of spelling, but then again, maybe that is too much credit to myself.

So we made it to Hump Day and no one has died  from listening to the news on the radio, it seems a few people have died and made it on the news, so that is a bit of a bummer.
I think when I die, I want to die of old age in my sleep and happy… Probably a tall order, but I think we can aim for a good long, happy and healthy life for the most part and take it a day at a time from there.

On the topic of death I was listening to a debate between a Nurse, Scientist, Engineer and Naturopath on euthanasia. You know they all seemed to have the same opinion on it, with the same black and white response that it should be legal for people of mental stability in the position of chronic illnesses and old age, the only problem is when it intertwines with mental health. What is your take on Euthanasia?

It’s amazing how quick vets are to suggest Euthanasia for our pets, don’t read into what I’m saying too much, that is not the point. But in the few short visits to the vet in the last few days with my friend and her cat, I was surprised the topic came up twice. This poor cat has cystitis, something some of us may be familiar with, one of the vet’s suggestions first up was to put the cat down. Like it would decrease the cats life quality that much, that killing it was the best option.
I mean, I am all about quality of life, don’t get me wrong, but if you suggest it for a cat that is only 5 who will occasionally get cystitis then I see another that  is 13, obviously in pain, has cancer and arthritis… it is a bit weird.

On the note of Cats. One of the ones I got from Ingleside Animal Welfare League about a month ago pulled a runner two nights ago and I’m absolutely distraught. This poor cat has apparently never been outside, expect in a cat carrier when carried to and from the pound. And she is frightened of everything, so that makes me feel worse.

OK so back to the point and we are going to take a look at how soon is too soon to kiss?

After a lovely phone conversation with my friend, L, from America, I realized that no matter how much I want there to be a standardized rule on ‘How many dates to kiss on, or to have sex on, or how many hours until you can hold hands‘… There just isn’t.

Being a girl is difficult, sure we have periods and bitch fights to deal with, but have you tried to figure out if you come off like a skank or like a prude. Sure the smart thing to say here is

Be yourself

But has anyone, short of the few insanely lucky ones, tried it and found someone who they can’t live without who returns the level of crazy attachment?
You have to be appealing enough to get them to stick around, but not so appealing that they think you are a flirt and an easy f@ck. There is such a thin line.

So back to me, because clearly I cant go more than a paragraph without talking about myself, Cody (Tinder Fling guy) is always teasing me since he thinks I am scared (He doesn’t know that I’m waiting until I know he will stick around, but aye, what can you do) and rarely make a move, but that is the funny thing. When someone has such a poor level of body language how can you know if they are receptive and that my friends is how you end up in a stale mate.

Anatomy and Physiology – Apical Surface Structure Adaptation of Epithelial Cells For Different Functions – Pseudo Stratified Columnar Epithelium

Cells have adaptions to perform functions…. WHAT?

Get To Know What The Hell I’m Talking About:

  • Epithelial Cells cover EVERYTHING, well not really, but it does cover the body surface and lines the hollow organs as well as forming ducts and some other pretty cool things, it can be put into two types: Covering and Lining Epithelium (skin, lining of the blood vessels, ducts and tracts – GI, Urinary, Reproductive and Respiratory) and Glandular Epithelium – thyroid, adrenal and sweat glands .
  • Epithelial Cells are very closely packed and cell junctions make sure that they are securely attached. There is no blood vessels so everything moves by diffusion. Here there is also a super high mitotic rate.
  • These epithelial cells sit on the basement membrane : the  Apical – free surface (top) and the basal surface against the basement membrane (bottom).
    They are classified by their arrangement: Simple(One cell thick), Stratified (two or more layers thick) or Pseudo Stratified (not all the cells reach apical surface but they are touching the basement membrane – nuclei are located at different levels )
    They are also classified by their shape of the surface cells:
    Squamous – flat, Cuboidal – cube shaped, columnar – like columns, transitional – varied shape.

Now that we are on a flat playing field and we all have the basic basic knowledge we can talk further about the cells adaptation for function. While as interesting as it is to know about cell mutations in the body due to adaption, we better save that for another day and focus on The adaption of cells to perform a designated function.

Let’s look at Pseudo Stratified Epithelium –  Ciliated and Columnar :

Epithelial Cells have adapted their surface shape to meet the requirements to perform their function. Pseudo Stratified Epithelium has the nuclei at different levels and appears multi layered and only have the appearance of multiple layers unlike stratified epithelium – which isa actually layered for two or more. These cells are at varied lengths, so not all cells reach apical surface, and those that do will either secrete mucus – goblet cells or have cilia – to sweep away mucus in the Ciliated Columnar Pseudo Stratified Epithelium.  Columnar Cells – protect underlying tissue and are specialised with secretion and absorption (mainly non ciliated columnar) and often have microvilli or cilia.
Ciliated Columnar Pseudo Stratified Epithelium can be found in the respiratory system as well as the epidermis and male urethra. Due to it’s location in the respiratory tract the epithelial cells are adapted so that they can get rid of the foreign particles that get swept in with inhalation.

30 Entries for 30 Days – Number 9 – Good Things Come To Those Who Wait

And we are so back on track with the 25/30 Pathetic Posts for my ‘30 Entries for 30 Days’ challenge, just incase you were worried.

Being myself is usually what I do in order to get guys, I think I am fantastic and usually that is enough to convince them that I am too. But after getting different advice from books and friends, I have decided that while the whole ‘don’t give yourself away’ thing is by far the smartest to avoid getting hurt, but not the smartest if you want to make a connection.

Think about it, when was the last time you were with someone and you instantly connected? Let me guess, it was a whirlwind romance, you wanted to be with each other 24/7, You wanted them to know everything about you and vice versa.
When I entered into dating Cody, the tinder fling, I kept myself private, not intentionally – he just wasn’t into asking questions, and over time I just spill my guts about everything regardless, and he’s getting used to it. In saying that, I think an approach from both angles is best, even if they aren’t asking you questions, sometimes you just have to volunteer information.

Whether a relationship forms is dependent on the two of you, so even if you are incredibly keen on someone, there is a chance it may :

  • A – Blow up in your face
  • B – Be Perfect Until You Realise He/She just Isn’t Interested…
  • C –  He/She will grow to love you

For the record C is soon unlikely, see my previous relationship with Gavin where I pushed it to happen since I was lonely and wanted a lifestyle that he was offering, while ignoring the fact I didn’t actually like him at all.

But what we do know, – no scientific research or statistics were harmed in the making by this assumption, is that guys want to chase, majority of the time, and deep down they generally go for destructive and crazy girls – which ends the relationship pretty quickly. But if you find a guy who just got out of a relationship with a crazy girl… there is a awesomely high chance he has dated other crazy girls before you. So there is my warning.

The vagueness of my advice is to  

  • Put yourself out there
  • Wait until the moments right
  • Respect your self.

I know what you are thinking, How the hell can you do the first two things at the same time?

Well, my suggestion is, if you don’t put yourself out there, you will never have a chance. So throw yourself into it enthusiastically, in saying that don’t rush to have sex or force yourself to feel ‘love’, but if you are both free at the same time, it’s ok to do spur of the moment things. But don’t make him the centre of your world. If you respect yourself he will too, this isn’t about ‘slut shaming’, It’s just my opinion, that if you keep it to yourself that you banged another guy a few night before you met up with this new guy, thats probably a great call.
It’s like being a member of an exclusive club, The harder it is to get, the more people will want it, right? Or at the very least  different type of people. To be fair though, this logic doesn’t always work, I mean sometimes you just find that one person who wants to know all your flaws, mistakes and conquests and will love you regardless… but just think they will probably expect you to love them for theirs too.

That is one thing I am terrible at, as soon as I meet a guy, he instantly becomes my social circle, I forget about my friends.
So much so, that after a quiet night in with Cody I forgot I had my friends coming around for breakfast the next morning and had to introduce them all to him and to make it worse I didn’t even tell him until they were already here. Horrible I know, but he put on a smile and handled it well… Much better than I would have. You would think I would learn from this mornings experience that Cody should not be the centre of my universe, but yet, here I am, rearranging my schedule last minute make sure all my afternoon/evenings are free incase he wants to see me. Can you say Pathetic?  But it is the feeling that I love when you know you are making bad choices because of feelings. 

So I’m just waiting it out, while being out there to get hurt, but still keeping my dignity…. Hope you can tell me what works best for you.