Whether or not this is factual I believe an embrace can always make you feel better. Crying on someone’s shoulder is always better than crying alone. While dealing with depression is so very hard. Something I can put my hand up to experiencing. It is the desire to be alone and wallow that gets you, well for me at least. I didn’t want to see anyone and when I was forced into it I didn’t enjoy it but I will always remember having someone, an old friend, just embrace me and even though I tried to pull away they didn’t let go. I just burst into tears. But that person didn’t let go, didn’t say anything, they let me just cry out my emotions and let me tell you. That cuddle made me feel almost alive after feeling nothing for so long.


And it is! Relationships form the sense of belonging (I know it’s sounds like the 2011 HSC English paper). That sense of belonging is essential to feeling good about yourself and literally feeling good (healthy). You can’t be healthy but not happy. It doesn’t work like that!


Those cuddles that tell you that you are loved, the cuddles that are an expression of appreciation are the ones that are essential to living.

I like to thing of showers as cuddles, it’s the cascade of warmth from an external force that makes you feel happy, it strips you of you”sins” and wrong doings, it gives you a moment to feel free!


Pets can be a great source of love. Regardless of any spider that make be creeping. It’s the warmth from an external force that can make you tear up and feel better. It is the comforting shoulder to cry on. Dogs are by far my favorite, it’s the love they give unconditionally for their owner.

Dogs can be the heart and soul of a family, in a situation of a broken family, it is that beloved pet that can get a child through.

The cuddle or embrace between a child and their dog can be the most emotionally comforting thing.



It’s that time where he takes a dump in front of you while you take off your makeup after a night out ( if you are lucky)
Ok so you have been in a relationship. Long time… Maybe not to you. But you feel comfortable or maybe you just don’t care anymore.


It’s like it’s losing its spark.


Not only do you fart infront of your partner but the sexy underwear stops. You do it missionary everytime and to top things off not only do you have a draw, you have a room full of their things which have managed to invade your house.

It’s gotten to the point where you have discussed marriage, children, houses and are finally on to the topic of funerals. not the cute ” what would you do if I like died” instead “make sure you contribute to your funeral fund, I don’t want to have to pay it all myself”… The usual banter.
And that back and forth flirting has been replayed with ” I changed the baby last time, it’s your turn


But at least you got a nice dress.


Australia Day

I have heard some rumors of this apparent desire to change the name of Australia Day to “Citizens Day”. All I can do is laugh. If you are a citizen of Australia I do believe you are an Australian…. What’s wrong with being an Aussie? If you don’t want to be called an Australian after being made a citizen then why are you here? Australians are proud to be Australians that’s why we get angry about people wanting to change the name of our precious day.

We aren’t a country full of racist red necks we are a welcoming Place that expects it citizen and new Australians to work for their money and give back to the country who opened its doors to all of us. I must admit I was appalled to see on not one person who wasn’t born an Aussie working as a volunteer on our countries special day. I have friends who are first generation Aussie from all different backgrounds who volunteer but never have I seen a new citizen of Australia volunteer in my area. This is something that bothers me.

Ask not what your country can do for you, But what you can do for your country!

We may be known as a country that has riots on Australia Day and is well known for our attitudes to drink as BBQ but really you will see all Australians of different races all picnicking together on many of the beaches with the few idiots who cause the fights.

Regardless Australia Day is a day for people who love their country and are proud to be here. I can understand if you have a love of your heritage from another but you are so blessed like myself to call Australia home. It’s one of the many things that makes an Aussie an Aussie. You are PROUD TO BE AN AUSTRALIAN … And I’m not just talking about when we win the sport. Whether you were born here or just made a citizen. We are all living in Australia for the same reason. IT IS A WONDERFUL COUNTRY AND YOU SHOULD BE PROUD OF IT.

While the floods of 2012 and the fires and floods of this year dampen our spirits, after years of drought and the waiting for the heavens to open.


It’s a love for our country that makes us a nationality. Australian.


It isn’t a love of vegemite that makes you an Aussie or the religion you follow. It isn’t even whether you enjoy a beer on a quiet Arvo.


All that matters is the respect you hold for Australia.

Natural Medicine and Conventional Medicine Working Together?

To Integrate or Not to Integrate Natural Medicine/s into the Conventional Healthcare system

Natural Medicine has been used generation after generation, and from this there is knowledge that conventional medicine isn’t able to unlock. To put the two medicine practices together in the health care system would cause both good and bad.
The Good :

  • There are many things that natural medicine alone can’t  solve but the same goes for Conventional Medicine.
  • Working with the two together if used correctly a faster and more effective outcome will occur.

The Bad:

  • Doctors can overstep the boundaries and mix two treatments which clash.
  • A full understanding needs to be made of both before the treatment methods are used.

Natural Medicine focuses on the source and then the treatment while I see conventional medicine as just stoping the symptoms. Bring on the Bandaids and quick fixes.

The whole thing about health is the length of time to let the body recover and respecting it while conventional medicine is mainly all about getting the patient able to go back to work or do what ever it is that they want. Which the Conventional branch of medicine has adapted to fit the ‘wants’ rather than the ‘needs’ of the patients,  The patient  wants to go to the party is much more than the need for them to rest and recover. And so this is where the pharmaceutical companies come in.

Conventional Medicine and Pharmaceutical companies go hand in hand, each pushing the other for favours to further themselves. Doctors prescribe what the pharmaceutical companies tell them essentially in my view, the problem with integrating natural medicine into the health system is that the pharmaceutical drugs won’t be sold. And that is just not an option for the big brand companies.

Almost every cream, tablet, cosmetic has a natural alternate just floating around in the outside world without the chemicals, but without the production and re-branding of these products the big companies will go out of business, and bye-bye money. You can’t integrate Natural medicine into the health system because of the politics at the moment, But in the long run I see it being one of the more vital changes to the health care system. Sometimes the chemicals in the drugs prescribed by conventional medicine can do more harm than good to the patient, this can be the same in both branches of medicine, but the natural alternatives may have more of a chance to heal the patient.


Both of these branches hold different views and opinions on healing, to ask doctors and practitioners of both fields to compromise their treatments may be asking too much. The lack of understanding of the branches used together would cause turmoil.  The affect of the change to the health system with the intergration of both branches being used side by side would impact the patient and the methods of treatment, I imagine it would take a long time for existing and new doctors and practitioners to adjust to the new system as well. I mean how can you just push two fully established health care practices together without expecting some backfire. The different drugs will react to each other, you can’t help it. I doubt even a doctor trained in both would know the exact reaction to mixing treatments on every occasion. But in some cases I believe that the use of blending treatments of both branches can help when used correctly in relation with each other, It can promote faster and  more effective healing and comfort of the patient.

But with the integration of Natural medicine into the health care system for the public it opens the branch of medicine up to some big bucks for research and studies into the fields. There lies the problem, Conventional Medicine doesn’t receive enough money for research as it is, somehow I don’t think they will happily split their funding to give it to a new addition to the health care system.

The public are yet another road block. As I am sure there was one for conventional medicine, which surely must have faced a lot of conflict while establishing itself away from folk medicine. I believe for some it would be easier than others to accept natural medicine as part of the health care system, as there is a lot of folk medicine still being used and don’t forget those tree-hugging hippies who all promote nature, but really I feel that a lot of the population will be accepting but there is a portion wont be. There are people who like what they know, anything that is new is bad. In this case there would have to be a lot, I mean a lot of sessions to teach and educate other people about the integration of natural medicine into the health care system.

Traditional Knowledge Vs Scientific Knowledge in Natural Medicine

Traditional knowledge  Vs scientific knowledge.

I believe Traditional Knowledge is equally as valid as scientific evidence which is based on many studies, to me hundreds of years of people being healed and not getting sicker are the same thing. If it hasn’t done any damage for the last 100 years why does it not seem valid to use. I believe in some cases there should be scientifically monitored studies of the traditional methods to improve effectiveness but in all honestly the traditional knowledge is passed on and used because it works, a scientific study of the effects of something are a smaller sample of the use of traditional knowledge. If they want to know if Traditional Medicine works, look at the generations which have used it.

Of course you can’t just tell people it works, they need their proof that they won’t get worse. Well look at the generations who have been treated using folk medicine passed down because it works. In a medical centre the doctors can’t treat patients using folk medicine unless they are trained and have the facts and figures which have been approved by the medical board. So Scientific knowledge is needed for a more orthodox medical professional to prescribe such things.

Using traditional knowledge allows for a mixture of healing techniques to be used at the same time because of the knowledge that they can all work together. This to me is a strength, I don’t believe that natural medicines are less potent, but can and should be used in conjunction with other approaches when dealing with a serious medical condition. But I do believe I would prefer to take natural medicine which has been passed down through generations of tradition because at least I know it not only works but the people who have utilised it aren’t trying to make money off it unlike the large pharmaceutical companies and I can see the effect on the people. Which to me is a better reassurance than some conventional medicine studies can show.

Traditional Knowledge is different to the scientific knowledge in the sense that the outcomes are different. The traditional knowledge is passed along because it works in the hopes of keeping later generations healthy, I may  be bias, but I don’t think that studies done to study medicine are all that reliable, pharmaceutical companies do have a lot of ‘pull’ and influence over studies conducted by their company. Independent research can come out with different results and that is what I don’t like. The studies are good to show number, people as numbers, but we aren’t. Each person is different and needs to be treated in a medical sense differently, prescribing different things to meet the individual’s needs.

Natural medicine, using the blanket term to cover it, has been used for thousands of years, nutrition was used to maintain good health way back with the ancient  greeks and egyptians. The difference is that science is finding the dosage, to create ‘health’ by taking so many ‘grams’ of a substance rather than just eating a wide variety of nutritional food. It is like they are cheating by trying to create a quick fix in my opinion.

In nutritional medicine I have seen more and more scientific research being done and the same goes for naturopathy there is more and more scientific research done in these areas now as it is becoming more popular. But these areas of natural medicine have been based on thousands of years traditional knowledge  and trial and error passed down.

The scientific side to this style of medicine is the nitty gritty, the small details that have been overlooked, perhaps trialling the exact amount and the difference in treatment. The usual level teaspoon should be replaced with 3.4 grams of a substance for example, which would be a strength of scientific knowledge. Knowing for a fact the exact measurement or exactly why it works is very important to some people, and this is what scientific research allows us to do.


Managing Cultural Prejudice in a Counselling Situation.

I think it is extremely important to be respectful of any ones  background, but to be respectful of your own as well. Respect and Trust go both ways. I think it is important to be aware that each culture has a different method of dealing with things. And some things that would be socially acceptable in one culture may not be in another. For example, when I talk to someone I always will look them in the eye and hold eye contact, this is socially accepted where I am from while if dealing with some other cultures it is considered rude to look someone in the eye.

It can be hard to work with people of other cultures because of a bias that is not only from an occurrence in your generation but one that happened many generations previous. Different cultures explain things differently for example the wars and invasions of one culture to another will have a different interpretation. For example you ask a Israeli and a person who has been displaced about the conflict in the middle east you will get two very different answers.

For this circumstance where you are dealing with a person of a cultural background different to yours that may have clashed and caused unrest in the culture it is important to remove that bias from yourself when dealing with it. I think a good method for any counselling practioner is to think of them as being from a similar culture as yourself, the problem with that is that you may forget the cultural difference of things that are not acceptable. When dealing with someone who has a stereotype it is important to not let it affect your judgement. If they, as a client, wish to discuss matters to which you have a strong view on such as wars, it is important to let them speak their mind and not interrupt.

It is important not to interrupt or influence them with your own opinions when dealing with a counselling situation regardless of what culture the client is from. The client needs time to form words and express how they feel, in this pause I wouldn’t advise speaking or asking more questions until they have finished.

To deal with prejudice of both the client and the practitioner it is important that it is handled in a respectful manner.  The prejudice needs to be removed from the situation, this can occur through talking it out with the other person on both ends of the stick.  It would not surprise me that previous experience with a ‘stereotypical’ type can influence the whole feeling towards a culture but in a setting when the need for trust and respect is important both parties need to remove the bias opinions of their culture in order to move forward. As the practitioner it is their job to compromise with the client, if the client wants to discuss something that the practitioner is aware he or she will not be able to counsel objectively, this is the time for a referral.

Otherwise in my opinion that the practitioner will be the one to deal and not allow bias to interfere with the counselling aims and goals. I believe that if I was faced with a situation where the client help different opinions and values to me because of a cultural difference , I think that I would be able to be objective about the situation if something ‘sensitive’ was to come up. Aside from a few different culturally acceptable things I don’t feel it would be all that different. Both parties need to be aware what is mutually acceptable. For example, putting your feet on the coffee table, it isn’t acceptable in some families but in others it is deemed ok. These little things can affect the whole system so it is important to let both people know if something is not acceptable in a non-aggressive manner.

I like to think I am a person relatively free form cultural bias but I have been raised on stories of history and old tales. This makes me not so much free from bias as I once thought, as the cultures in those stories I developed opinions about at a young age.
Dealing with people of a different background to you is a lot easier as a kid, there really are no differences, but I think once all parties are older it makes way to each person’s own bias due to interactions with people of other backgrounds or lack of interaction that forms the prejudice.

Private vs Multi-Discipline Clinics

I have always wanted to own my own practice, I think that starting in a Multi- Discipline Clinic is a good start, while working with other people can be stressful (This is one of the things that puts me off it long term) the atmosphere of having people there as backup can take away some unnecessary anxiety.

I feel the advantages of working in a Multi-Disciplined Clinic is that you are never alone, there is always a second opinion and some sense of security if you work in a building. The knowledge that someone else will clean the restrooms and the mirrors and dust can be a pleasant bonus of working in a clinic, it also allows you freedom to not have to work every day.

But to me the disadvantages of working in a Multi-Disciplined Clinic are that you have to rely on others to do something. I prefer to know that if I haven’t done something right that it was me and that if someone else does things I feel like they have let me down and it may be harder for them to improve where I will know what I have done wrong.  This is why working in a team envirorment may be good for the first few years of starting off in the field but in the long run I don’t see many personal advantages. I am not a fan of relying on people to do things for me. It can be nice to have a helping hand as you start off but I wouldn’t like to be mucked around because of someone elses mistake, where if it is my mistake I am the only one affected in a private practice, while if I am working in a team environment, my mistakes affect others.

It was only after last weeks lecture about Conflict Resolution did I realise how important it can be to not work alone, but to work in a team environment. I still believe I would prefer to work in a private practice where I only impact myself, but I have had a more open view of both now.